I’m not good enough.
I’m not pretty enough.
He would never notice me.
He would never be interested in me.
I’m not thin enough.
All of these negative thoughts, and then some, have filtered through my head in the past 12 hours. They hit me like a flood. All of those supposed truths that I used to believe. And they hit hard enough that I almost started to believe them again.
I had to give myself a pep talk this morning in the shower. That I am good enough. I am beautiful. And that I am a catch. And if some guy is too dumb to realize all of those things, then he isn’t the one for me.
But this whole incident has prompted me to do a little self-reflection on why all of those thoughts came flooding back through my brain. And I came up with a couple of reasonable ideas.
- I’m exhausted, mentally and physically. I’ve had a long, stressful week. And it seems like the devil knows just when to pounce.
- I am mistaking God’s inactivity for a lack of approval.
I get it that waiting just sucks. I will be the first one to admit that. I don’t enjoy being patient. I never have. But just because God is saying “not yet” does not mean that the answer is no. Or even worse, that the answer is that I don’t deserve it. Or I’m not worthy of it.
Because, news flash, none of us are worthy of the love that God showers on us every day. And let’s not talk about what we deserve! Because I guarantee that God is saving me from a whole long list of things that I probably actually deserve. But He is kind and gentle and loving, and He has chosen me, He has saved me from all of those nasty things that I do deserve.
So, pep talk accomplished. But I still need more coffee.