If you post nothing but positivity and perfection on social media, you make everyone else feel bad. While everyone also believes that there is absolutely no way your life is that perfect.
You’re just faking it.
You shouldn’t brag about your accomplishments.
But you shouldn’t have low self-esteem.
Don’t do that.
Act this way.
Don’t be absurd.
Why are you being like that?
Just be real.
Oh, but not that real.
Share your feelings.
But only if they’re positive.
But be real.
Admit your struggles.
But don’t talk bad about yourself.
But be humble about it.
Does any of this sound familiar? Because it certainly does to me. There is such a fine line between self-confidence and self-deprecation that it’s truly a wonder if any of us have a small measure of mental health.
After a lifetime of never feeling like I was good enough, or smart enough, or just plain enough…I finally feel like I’m maybe, almost making a little bit of progress. Not to say that this isn’t a daily struggle. Because it is.
I know that I do not need to settle for anything less that I deserve. And when I say that, I mean…I’m smart, I’m capable, I’m strong, I’m stubborn, I’m funny, I’m kind, I’m a million different things.
And when I say that I shouldn’t settle for anything less than what I deserve, I will not settle for anything less than someone or something that sees who I truly am, and isn’t fearful of that. I will not surround myself with people who choose to put me down instead of lift me up.
We often get so focused on what other people think of us, and how other people make us feel about ourselves that we lose sight of what is truly important.
Not only who God is to us…Father, Creator, Friend, Strength…but also who we are to God…loved child.
We. Are. Loved.
Daily, we are surrounded by so much love, it can be overwhelming, it can seem false, but it is never unfailing.
Do you need to read that again?
Because God’s love for you never fails.
No matter what you’ve done. No matter how unloving you have acted. God’s love for you has never failed.
It seems incredible, doesn’t it? That someone loves us without any type of condition laid upon us.
Yet, it’s the truth.
How can that truth help us navigate the tricky path that I laid out above?
Let’s talk about the word humble. The act of “being humble” does not mean self-deprecating.
To be self-deprecating means to put yourself down. To say that you are less valuable that you actually are.
But to be humble means to have knowledge and confidence in who you are, and knowing that all you are, all you have, is because of God.
Does that solve a lot of problems?
I will. Maybe not instantly. But it will definitely solve a lot of problems. And it will help you build a more firm foundation to navigate the rest of the challenges that life throws your way.
So now that we have the easy answer out of the way…what does this really look like? How do we begin to implement this in our lives?
It isn’t easy.
It isn’t fast.
But it is so worth it.
God didn’t create worthless pieces of junk.
So maybe one of the things that you need to do is take some time to really look at yourself, and who you are, and the things that you offer to the world around you. Write out a list of all of the good things that you are if you need to. Turn it into a poster and hang it on your wall if you need to. Whatever you need to do to remind yourself of your value.
Read your Bible. I cannot stress this enough. You must spend time reading, studying and understanding God’s words to truly understand who He is. I can sit here and type until my fingers bleed about who God is. But until you actually get into a relationship with Him, you won’t really know Him.
Now…can the Bible be complex, and overwhelming? Absolutely. It can be terrifying.
But it’s ok to be afraid, and still move forward and do it.
I promise you, it will be worth it.
Maybe take it slow if you need to. Get help when you need it. Ask questions. Just, please, make sure you’re asking for help from people who have some understanding of the Bible.
Once you have taken those 2 steps, something will naturally happen. You start to take a look at what you’re doing, who you’re surrounding yourself with, and you really start to take a look inward about whether you need to make any changes in your life.
And guess what?
Those negative voices that have surrounded you in the past, the voices that have tried to bring you down…once you stand up for yourself, and have confidence in yourself, those negative voices tend to weed themselves out.
Not always (unfortunately) so you may need to make some drastic changes to your social scene.
But you won’t be sorry for it.
My friend, you are loved. You are amazing. Now go have an amazing day!!!